Full disclosure: Diana is my sister, so she was pretty much obligated to say yes when I asked her to be on Untangled (not that she opposed anyway.) We FaceTimed from our apartments on separate ends of the continent and chatted all about her curly hair, lessons she learned from our mom and how her hair makes her feel. Here's her hair story, in her words:
ON LIKING HER HAIR
I used to not like my hair, because I always wanted straight hair. I think everybody who has curly hair wants straight hair, everybody who has straight hair wants curly hair. But once I got to know my hair better, I learned to like it more and just let it be free and do its thing. I'm pretty lucky to have a decent curl to my hair -- it's not really tight and it's not just a random wave. It can hold quite well and it straightens well. It's very versatile.
HOW SHE TAKES CARE OF HER HAIR
I don't do much. I wash it maybe once a week and that's about it. I don't brush it -- once in a while, when there's really gnarly knots in it, and I'll brush it before I shower. Aside from that, sometimes I'll put coconut oil in it and once in a while might put product, if I'm styling it and it needs to hold. Day-to-day, I don't do anything. And I don't blow dry it. I don't even own a blow-dryer.
There's definitely ways I like to style my hair that make me feel more put together. Curly hair makes me feel a little more frazzled, and when it's straight I feel a little more put together. Curly hair is unruly -- it has a mind of its own -- which is fine sometimes. For the most part, I'm just too lazy and don't want to put in the effort to style my hair everyday. There are people who do that and all the power to them. Usually, I only style my hair for special occasions. Or if I somehow have extra time in my day, which is not often.
ON HAIR AND IDENTITY
Your hair changes with you through the years. That's part of your identity. It's unique. Aside from invasive surgeries, hair is a pretty easy thing to change. I know there's fashion, and that's a way to change who you are, and makeup, and I guess hair is part of that aesthetic part of your personality. But hair is something that, if you were naked and didn't have makeup on, you'd still have -- unless you were bald or lost your hair for some reason. Even then, everyone is born with hair, so it's part of you.
HOW HER HAIR MAKES HER FEEL
I feel more girly when I have long hair. With short hair I feel even more unruly with the curliness because when it's shorter it actually gets a tighter curl. I like my hair short, and I like it when it's loose waves, if I style it short. But long, I don't mind. It depends -- I'll grow my hair long and get really attached to it. And there will be times when it looks really good, and I'm like, "Oh yeah, I want to keep it long." Usually, I'll book a haircut and the week before, my hair will look great every single day. Then, when I have it short, I like it and I feel confident because I don't have this weight attached to me, but I have no security blanket.
ON GOOD HAIR
Effortless hair is good hair.
ON LESSONS FROM MOM
Mom was always like [in her best mom voice], "Just let it go natural. Let it dry naturally. It looks so nice."
ON GOING GREY
I think it's fine. I've already found a couple grey hairs. I think it's going to look super frazzly when I have salt and pepper. Then once it's all grey, it will hopefully be like dad's. [Editor's note: Our dad has a great head of thick white hair.] I'm curious to know if it will be curly still, or what the curl will turn into. I don't know if I love grey hair, I don't hate it though.
HER HAIR IN THREE WORDS
A lion mane.
-- As told to Untangled. This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity. Photos by Derek Dix.